Monday, October 26, 2009
Tuesday, October 20, 2009
A pious, holy looking person could have lustful thoughts in His mind, while a friend smiling at you acros the table or at work could have thoughts that are better shown in an horror film about you in her mind.
We sometimes hide our thue feelings by expressing the very opposite of what we feel. Our mental chatters is also revealed by a sigh, the unecessary outburst, and sometimes a gentle smile that say a plesant thought just passed through our mind. King Sunny Ade sang about the conscience being that onewho is the silent observer of all we do - Remenber that song? Do you know that some people who speak impeccably in English language often commune in their mind in that same language?
What you dwell upon in your heart will affect all you do. We need to ask, what or who are we in the recesses of our mind? What if there is a screen where our thoughts are screened? Will you be proud of the production? The Holy book says as a man thinks in his heart, so is he. We are but a reflection of our thoughts and sooner or later, those thoughts will become actions. Shall we pray?
Thursday, October 15, 2009
I once did a soul search and asked myself if i can live without my friends. The answer was resounding NO! Friends come and go but even when we are disappointed or we disappoint others, we will still gravitate towards the next person and strike another alliance - hoping it will be better than the last. No matter how reclusive we may want to seem, we can't function fully as humans without the love and affections of our friends.
I have heard people say things like, "I don't have any friends" or "my siblings are my only friends", or "I don't want to have any friends". Married women are even advised not to have friends and make their spouse the only friend they have - no wonder most women nowadays are not making the impact our mothers made then. I remember growing up seeing my mum host several women's association - either from the Anglican Church we attended then or from her office or other groups. These women come together and in the midst of the normal bickering- they stand by one another, help out when it is needed and rally round each other for the sake of the friendship they share through the clubs or association. I remember also that they started a mentoring strategy where a young, or newly married woman is attached to an older woman who acts as her guide and prayer partner. Such women, who are now older still remembers my mum and keeps in touch - years and several re locations later.
The men also had theirs - even though it is more of an excuse to eat bush meat and drink palm wine than to bond - yet it brought out a lot of results for the children as you are able to leverage on your dad's association with a certain permanent Secretary or DG to get an IT placement, job or get out of trouble.
So how come we don't have these groups of 20's, 10's and even 5's anymore? Sometimes we even struggle to keep in touch with the few church members we say hi to after the services and we don't call to say hi to our colleagues at work once the weekend start? When i recall that there was no GSM or social networking sites then, i wondered how our parents made the contacts necessary to keep their friends close.
We have facebook, skype, twitter, e-mails, GSM - yet it has drawn us apart rather than keep us together! There is need to feel that closeness with the other person that is intimate but not sexual, that is revealing but not indecent.
I love my friends and sometimes i overdo it - making their husbands and boyfriends jealous and uncomfortable - but i can't help it because i only thrive and be my best when i am surrounded with them. My husband has learn to accept that these people - young, older, mates - women and a few guys - will always be part of our home. That is why it is possible for me to accommodate a male friend in my home for almost a year without much ado and give a key to my home to another female friend.
Who are your friends? Are they the people who looks and dress like you do or do you go out of your way to be a shoulder to someone who is different? Are you reliable? Can i trust you with the deepest secrets of my heart? Can i rely on you to bail me out of a bad situation? You don't have to be perfect to be a good friend, i am not - sometimes my big mouth comes between my good intentions and deliveries and i hurt my friends and myself in the process - but then, there is forgiveness which we have all received and should give back in volumes.
Where are your friends? Look out for those who mean something to you today and don't hesitate to be a friend to another.
Wednesday, October 14, 2009
As much as i like my make up i know that it is not what i put on that determines who i am. it takes more than my face, my dress and my accessories to make me. I am a product of a well-thought out plan and i have invested so much more into myself ot be what I am.
It is important for every woman to know her worth and not be swayed by mere talks! It still baffles me how a girl can give herself cheaply to a man just because he says she is beautiful! it will take more than mere words to get a woman who knows her worht and she has all it takes to determine who she is with and who she gives her heart to.
I stumbled upon the following collection of quotable quotes on beauty and will like to share them on my page. Some of these quotes may sound crazy, but it sure will appeal to some more than the other.
“Beauty is how you feel inside, and it reflects in your eyes. It is not something physical.” -Sophia Loren
“Every photo shoot, I'm always asking the makeup artist what they're using on me, and I'll go out and get it.” -Denise Richards
“It's all or nothing with my makeup. If I get dressed up, I'll go to an extreme. I'll wear foundation, bright blue or bright red lipstick with one of my weird purple wigs.” -Angelina Jolie
“I want to be a guy, but I want to wear a lot of makeup.” -Gwen Stefani
“When I went on the stage to do a show, I would put on makeup because I felt that it enhanced my act; it drew attention to what I was doing.” -Little Richard
“Nature gives you the face you have at twenty; it is up to you to merit the face you have at fifty.” –Coco Chanel
“I love the confidence that makeup gives me.” -Tyra Banks
“I don't believe makeup and the right hairstyle alone can make a woman beautiful. The most radiant woman in the room is the one full of life and experience.” -Sharon Stone
“I like to work in costumes, makeup, and hair that allow me tremendous freedom.” -Jessica Lange
“That's why I began doing makeup in the first place: I was hoping that through helping people see the beauty in themselves, I could try and find it in me.” -Kevyn Aucoin
“The makeup is simply an extension of the personality and colors, clothing, makeup all express something.” -Gene Simmons
“I started doing makeup to make a living. Then I said, You're not supposed to be putting powder on other people. You're supposed to be powdering yourself.” -Debi Mazar
“I don't like to have too many makeup artists around, so I always like to do my own.” -Diana Ross
“The best color in the whole world, is the one that looks good, on you!” -Coco Chanel
“If truth is beauty, how come no one has their hair done in the library?” -Lily Tomlin
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